Be unapologetic about your feelings.

Here I am again, writing about yet another failed attempt at a relationship.

The only difference this time is that I did let my walls come down and, as expected, it came back to bite me.

Do I regret allowing myself to feel?

Absolutely not.

Do I like when people underestimate how I feel because it was a short-lived affair?

Also, absolutely not.

How is it that when someone breaks up after…


Not everyone is worth the wait.

There are many reasons for us to decide to let go of someone and, however hard it may be, we should never hold on to someone who does not appreciate us and reciprocates our affection.

But what are the signs? How are you supposed to know when it’s time to…


Here’s what I went through.

We all venture into dating more or less hopeful that maybe someday we will meet someone who is, if not perfect, at least a good match for us.

And we are all aware of how modern dating (AKA dating at the time of dating apps) increases our chances of failure…


Why I am taking a break from all dating apps

I am no stranger to the new ways of dating, I have been using dating apps for way longer than I care to admit and, especially in a pandemic state, it does seem like the only way to meet new people. I know the feeling of excitement that comes with…


This is seriously not the time for that!

Being single in this Insta-perfect world is definitely not an easy task, especially if you are in your mid-20s and feel some of the pressure of living the same picture perfect life everyone seem to be living on social media. …


FYI: Monologues are not sexy

I am pretty sure we’ve all been there at some point, you meet someone (either online or in real life), you get along and decide to take the next step and go on a date. All good so far.

You may even slightly be into…


Of how loving you made me feel and how having lost you does.

I was talking to a friend today and I realised how, in reality, I have been grieving your loss for about a month or so. I realised I avoid not just thinking of you, but also thinking about your name or anything related to you. I had to stop reading…


About the strength of being vulnerable

Sometimes I wish I never showed you how vulnerable I can get. I wish I just played it cool. I wish you hadn’t seen me cry and I wish you didn’t know how sad my whole body gets when I think of something painful. …


I have been keeping away from falling too deep for someone for almost two years, for various reasons. I never let anyone get too close to me, never too close to be able to touch my emotions, never too close to see what’s underneath, what’s inside.

But even I, eventually…

Alessia D.

Avid reader, lover and red wine drinker. A walk through the emotional rollercoaster modern dating is.

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